“I Want To Be Single, But With You”, The Most Viral Letter On The Internet

“I want to be single, but with you” is a letter that in recent days has been going around the world through the network.

Perhaps its success is due to the fact that it is a full-blown declaration of intent (sexual and non-sexual).

Reading the letter I want to be single, but with you it  is  enlightening to understand that our soul mate will be the person with whom we can be ourselves.

Let’s read it below:

“I want to be single with you.”

I want you to go have a beer with your friends, so that the next day you have a hangover and ask me to come see you because you want to have me in your arms and that we snuggle up.

I want us to talk in bed in the morning about all sorts of things, but sometimes in the afternoon. 

I want everyone to do what they want during the day.

I want you to tell me about the nights you go out with your friends.

Tell me there was a girl at the bar who used to make eyes at you.

I want you to text me when you’re drunk with your friends so you can tell me bullshit, just so you can be sure that I’m thinking of you too.

I want us to laugh while we make love.

That we start laughing because we are trying new things and they don’t make sense.

I want us to be with our friends, so that you can take me by the hand and take me to another room because you can’t take it anymore and you want to make love to me right there.

I want to try to remain silent because there are people and they can hear us.

I want to eat with you, that you make me talk about myself and that you talk about yourself.

I want us to discuss which is better, the north coast or the south coast, the western quarter or the eastern quarter.

I want to imagine the apartment of our dreams, even knowing that we will probably never live together.

I want you to tell me your plans, those that have neither head nor tail.

I want to surprise myself by saying: “Take your passport, we’re leaving.”

I want to be afraid of you.

Do things that I would not do with anyone else, because with you I feel safe.

Coming home very drunk after a good night with friends.

So that you hold my face, kiss me, use me as your cushion and hug me very tightly at night.

I want you to have your life, so that you decide to go on a trip for a few weeks on a whim.

For you to leave me here, alone and bored, wishing your face would pop up on Facebook saying “Hello” to me.

I don’t want you to always invite me to your sprees, and I don’t want to always invite you to mine.

So, the next day I can tell you how the night was and you can tell me yours.

I want something that is simple and, at the same time, complicated.

Something that makes me ask myself questions often, but the moment I’m in the same room with you, all doubts disappear.

I want you to think that I am beautiful, that you are proud to say that we are together.

I want you to tell me I love you and, above all, to be able to say it to you.

I want you to let me walk in front of you so you can see my ass move from side to side.

For you to let me scratch my car windows in winter because my ass wiggles and it makes you smile.

I want to make plans without knowing if we will make them in the end.

Be in a clear relationship. I want to be that friend you love to hang out with.

I want you to continue to have the desire to fool around with other girls but to look for me to end the night together.

Because I want to go home with you.

I want to be the one you make love to and then fall asleep.

The one that leaves you alone when you’re working and the one that loves when you get lost in your world of music.

I want to have a single life with you. Because our life as a couple would be the same as our single lives today, but together.

One day, I will find you.

This is the letter “I want to be single, but with you” that is causing a sensation on the internet.

It was written by Isabelle Tesier and dedicated to the love you long for. A “love” that she feels independent and ideal.

You may or may not agree with the letter I want to be single, but with you, but what is clear is that many people identify with these words.

The truth is that relationships “free of prejudices and expectations” are  becoming more frequent in our society.

What does it mean not to be friends or to be a boyfriend?

Being friends without being boyfriends means breaking the barriers that we impose on ourselves when maintaining a relationship.

It means establishing our own rules based on true needs and concerns, not the expectations that society creates for us.

Nowadays, perhaps because of the life that we have to live, free relationships are common without imposed commitments.

Obviously, depending on the eyes that look at them, they will have more or less advantages.

Whoever accepts and wants them advocates at least these two issues:

It is another way to enjoy sexuality

Two people who like and attract each other may only want to have sexual relations and not establish an emotional bond that excludes the possibility of having contacts with more people.

It is also possible that two people love each other but do not need each other as they are expected to.

Also, that they are independent and build their lives without the need for explanations.

The idea is that the couple can  decide the rules that will govern their relationship, ignoring what society has sold them.

Obviously, since this is out of the ordinary, it is still highly questioned.

Can help manage emotions

These types of relationships help to explore and get to know each other both sexually and emotionally.

Since this situation is complex, resolving doubts and fears can help establish some control over our emotions.

These types of relationships are just as valid as conventional or formal ones, as long as they both share the terms and aspirations.

As with everything, at the moment in which the style of the relationship makes one of the two suffer, it should be cut and the pain should not be unnecessarily prolonged.

In a relationship, you should aspire to respect the ability to decide and the criteria of each one to know the type of relationships you want to have in your life.

Freedom in love is still taboo in our society, however every day more voices are raised that promote tolerance and freedom of expression.

For this reason, let each one choose openly and comfortably how they want to live their relationships.

After all, being free from prejudice is a good thing for everyone.

The letter  I want to be single, but with you  was originally published on HuffPost Quebec, was translated into English for The Huffington Post, and has been translated from English by Maria Ulzurrun.

Rachel Aldana

General Health Psychologist. Collegiate number: R – 00714. Master in General Health Psychology from UNED. Emotional Education Specialist. Collaborator in different media. Full-time psychologist, teacher and researcher in a private center. Trainer in public organizations in La Rioja. Researcher at USAL. Examiner for the State Security Forces. Coordinator of the Conference on Emotional Psychology and other training sessions at the Youth Council of Logroño. Lecturer at Instituto Riojano de la Juventud. Editor and content advisor at Grupo M Contigo SL Tutor teacher in Master’s Degree in General Health Psychology (UNIR and UNED). Tutor Professor in Psychology Degree (UPSA) Collaboration with TEA Ediciones in the pilot project for the typification of the TEA Questionnaire for the Evaluation of ADHD and Executive Functions, ATENTO Collaboration with Pearson Clinical Assessment in the typification project of Clinical Evaluation of Language Fundamentals ( CELF-5) and Behavior Assessment System for Children-3 (BASC-3) Creator of a program to promote youth employability.