Emotional Pain Takes The Longest To Heal

Emotional pain is the wound that no one sees and takes the longest to heal. All of us have some, or more than one. However, far from seeing them as defeats or symbols of weakness, we must learn to recognize them as part of our essence.

Throughout our life cycle we have experienced triumphs and disappointments. No one is immune to suffering, but only a few are capable of transforming that suffering into learning: into resilience.

Because you are not your defeats, nor your losses. You are the person who has managed to look adversity in the face to face it and move forward. Although this is something that is difficult for us to discover, because emotional pain always hurts and always reminds us “where the wound is.”

The emotional pain that nobody sees and that we all hide

We could say without mistake that in this life there are usually two types of people:

• Those who internalize their emotional pain and manage it day by day with courage and personal improvement. They are personalities who do not let themselves be defeated and who keep their scars knowing that they are part of their experiences  and what they have learned.

• Then there are those other people who have made their emotional pain their personal grudge. They feel so hurt that they cause discomfort to those around them. They have stopped trusting themselves and others and view everyday life with negativity.

It is also often said that those who have not suffered do not yet know what life is. However, it is not necessary to fall into these extremes. Each of us lives the existence that touches us and we must assume what destiny brings us.

Emotional pain is always that internal wound that, if not managed properly, can turn into illness. This is what we call “somatizing”, that is, when an emotional problem overwhelms us, our entire body suffers the consequences to the point of suffering various ailments, as suggested by this study by Dr. J. Américo Reyes-Ticas.

These are usually the most common:

• Migraines
• Musculoskeletal problems
• Stomach ache
• Bad digestions
• Insomnia
• Dizziness
• Sickness

All of us, in some way, have gone through these difficult times in which suffering has passed from thought and from the emotional world to our fragile physical wrapping.

It is inevitable, but that does not mean that we should surrender to that emotional discomfort. Life continues its course and we deserve to continue breathing, continue to be excited with hope. We explain how to get it.

How to manage emotional pain every day

You have the right to cry and feel anger

You are a person and as such you need to channel your emotions. Never follow the advice of those who tell you: don’t cry, look ahead and forget about everything, pretend nothing has happened …

• Since when do we have to turn our face to what hurts us? Never. You have to look at your enemy face to face, understand him and know why he has hurt you. To close a stage we need to “understand, understand ” and not run away.

• Crying is something necessary, hygienic and healthy. Like feeling rage and getting angry. All of this is called emotional relief and as such should be experienced for a short period of time.

Who does not vent does not “discharge” and this, in the long term, has consequences.

• The emotional relief must be punctual and not extend beyond two weeks. If we spend a whole month crying and letting ourselves be carried away by negative emotions, we run the risk of falling into depression.

You have the right to prioritize yourself

Not only do you have the right to prioritize yourself, but it is also your obligation to allow yourself what you want and need.

• You need time? Offer yourself a few weeks.
• Do you need to feel useful? Make your own decisions and set yourself new goals to be excited about.

• Do you need to be happy? There may be things in your day to day that you need to leave behind. It is time to reflect and make decisions.

No more “finding yourself”. Now you must “reinvent yourself”

We spend a large part of our lives making “finding ourselves” a priority. Now that you have had your experiences, that you have obtained your learnings and that you have lived through emotional pain in various forms, it is time to “reinvent yourself.”

• You know how you are. Now consider what kind of person you would like to be : Someone more courageous? Safer? Someone capable of achieving their dreams?

• To reinvent ourselves we need to nurture new hopes and illusions. It is never too late to make changes, to catch that train again that one day we missed.

• Surround yourself with people who promote your personal growth, who help you and who do not put walls to your identity or your self-esteem.

The emotional pain is overcome with new illusions, with new encouragement and hope. They are internal wounds that will heal little by little and that each day will hurt a little less.