What Comes Next Will Always Be Better

It is very difficult for us to break with what we have clung to. Especially in the realm of relationships, thinking that what comes next will always be better seems like an unrealistic fantasy. Although, the truth is, it is the only real thing. When a situation falls by itself, when a relationship no longer holds, the world comes upon us and we believe that everything is over. However, this is not the case.

It is a feeling that we have, perhaps the result of the excessive dramatization that we have learned regarding relationships.

What feelings make us experience

Although what comes will always be better, at the moment of the break we feel that everything is falling apart and that our life is ending. That’s because our feelings are playing tricks on us.

• Feelings of hopelessness, of a broken heart, fears of not finding anyone the same, fear of feeling incapable of being happy with another person …
• Change, leaving the comfort zone, even reluctantly, causes a lot of insecurity and, in the case of relationships, these types of emotions.

However, we must be very careful to differentiate between what we are feeling and what is best for us. Because this maelstrom of emotions can lead to what we know as intermittent relationships.

On-and-off relationships are those in which your members are together, then break up, come back, and break up again. So on. This happens because their fear of a decisive ending makes them always back down.

However, as we have been able to realize, they break again. Therefore, nothing is going right and the best thing they could do is to abandon that relationship altogether. Because what comes will always be better.

What happens to us allows us to grow

As painful as a process of breaking up may be, it will only enrich us. We will learn from that relationship, we will meet other people and we will start other types of relationships that will allow us to learn even more.

If we do as in intermittent relationships and come back again and again with the same person, we are not learning anything! We are pigeonholed, returning to a comfort zone that gives us nothing, but in which we feel safe.

Despite the insecurity that confronts us when taking that step to abandon what we thought safe at the time, despite feeling that everything is going to change and not wanting this to happen, what comes will always be better.

New experiences, new opportunities … In short, new options to continue learning, growing, maturing and getting to know each other much better.

We must not force situations or cling to those that no longer bear fruit, but rather rot. This is harmful to us and can make us think about the precious time we have lost when we are older.

It is okay not to throw in the towel at the first change if there are growth expectations. If there aren’t any and what we are looking for is comfort, security, tranquility and not face our fears, that towel should go to the floor but now.

What comes will always be better for us

What comes will always be better, but for this we have to learn from experiences without holding on to them. Do not regret ourselves, do not victimize ourselves … Take them as something that has happened and that has taught us to mature and grow.

Everything that happens to us helps us to be better people, as long as we want to see it that way. Our perspective on situations is always decisive.

Let’s think about all the experiences that at the time we believed would mean the end of our life. Situations in which we think that we would be left alone, that no one would notice us, that we would never have a partner again, that we would not know how to live without a partner …

What has happened now that we can see everything that happened in perspective? Those years ago were torture for us, but now?

We are sure that we are proud of who we have become and we appreciate those experiences that were painful at the time, but that allowed us to become the person we are today. Because what comes next will always be better, believe it or not.